Strategies for Surviving a Loss
When you suffer a loss, your life is sometimes turned upside down. Here
are some ways to get the support you need:
- Tell people that you need to talk about your loss – friends
and family may be afraid to bring up the subject for fear of hurting
you.
- Ask for specific help – when someone volunteers to help, don’t
wait for them to figure out your needs. Identify specific requests:
to babysit, bring over food or give you a hug.
- Balance your need for company with your need for solitude –
you may need some time alone after a loss, but as time passes, loneliness
may become a larger problem.
- Prepare for the holiday and anniversaries – many people become
depressed during the holiday season or on the anniversary of a death.
Make arrangements to spend time with friends or family during these
painful times.
- Consider the needs of others – some friends are uncomfortable
with grief. Seek the support of friends who are sympathetic and supportive.
- Don’t rely on your family – when the family is “stressed
out,” find support from other people.
- Take care of your body – good nutrition, exercise and massage
are good ways of preventing some of the physical effects of grief such
as insomnia or weight loss.
- Give yourself simple pleasures – although indulging in a bubble
bath, renting a movie, taking a vacation or going to a ball game will
not resolve all your problems, they can provide relief.
People who cope successfully with grief eventually find new activities,
form new relationships, and become more active and independent. They learn
that, with understanding, they can survive loss and overcome its mental
and physical effects. |
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