Parenting Tips
Parents often find it hard to talk to
their teens — especially with boys who are usually less
chatty than girls. The key is to not try
to talk with them. Instead, do something together like washing
the car, going fishing, running errands, etc. When you're
doing these activities together, chances are greater that
relaxed, spontaneous discussion will happen rather than trying
to get your teen to begrudgingly answer your questions.
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Need a “Parenting Pick-Me Up?” Try these tips:
- Really Listen…Listening means understanding and communicating
by giving undivided attention and by encouraging the expression of feelings.
Have real conversations when you both listen and respond/react to each
other.
- Encourage Family Activities…A sense of belonging is developed
by doing things together such as social activities as well as household
chores.
- Discipline Constructively…It is important to give clear directions
and to enforce limits on behavior. Use a positive approach – “Do”
rather than “Don’t.”
- Be Consistent…Discuss and post house rules. If they change,
announce the change.
- Be Clear…Say what you mean; mean what you say.
- Be Flexible…Bargaining is an effective tool. Consider the individual
personality.
- Trust Your Own Common Sense…If you are not sure, announce the
need for some time to think. Then, do not hesitate or be indecisive.
- Develop Mutual Respect…Model basic trust by being honest and
sincere yourself. Insist that all family members treat each other with
respect. Apologize when you err.
- Attend to Your Needs…Maintain your individuality and cultivate
your own interests/talents. Treat yourself well, thus avoiding the martyr
syndrome.
- Maintain a Sense of Humor…Finding the humor in life is an important
aspect of personal adjustment.
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